Why Do You View Being An Introvert As Something Negative?

I understand that when you say nothing, you give people no understanding of who you are. But being introverted is actually something really special. To not give away your words to just anyone is really beautiful. I think I have viewed it as negative for so long, because this is something that is never complimented. I never hear, “I absolutely love how quiet you are.” You are only questioned in weird ways, at times criticized, or viewed as rude. 

But I think the idea that not saying anything means all these things has made being introverted almost a personal attack to other people, when interestingly enough it has absolutely nothing to do with other people. Other people are the ones that make it weird, and have always made it weird. 

I love being quiet. I love thinking, and I have taken time to learn to love living in my own head and usually I am more entertained and at peace just being in my own little world. A lot of the time, the usual things people talk about are other people, complaining, or trying to be relatable by putting themselves down in some humorous way. And you know what, that is weird, and should be questioned as much as being quiet is. 

Speaking about things that are irritating and stupid should be much more normalized to question, than people not saying anything at all. So I think we have switched up the personality trait that should be viewed as “normal.”

Being introverted and being quiet is usually about energy levels too. People who can talk all day are fine and usually I enjoy being around them because it takes up a lot of the work of talking in conversations. But I do not have a ton of social energy to indulge in, but when I do have something to say I will certainly say it. 

Conserving energy levels allows me to be at my best all throughout the day. Not talking for the majority of the day also lets my conversations be really important, engaging, and exciting when I do talk for my small portion of the day. 

Being a quiet person also gives me a really great perspective of utilizing my observation skills with people. I am not someone who wants to talk to just anyone, and I like to see who I would enjoy speaking to. Observing people is not judging them, because I don’t believe people are above or below-I think we are all on the same plane in different spots. 

But observation keeps me safe from people I know will drain me, it lets me see where I may learn something from someone, and it lets me practice using my intuition about other people. Being observative and also standing firm in being a quiet person develops a lot of self trust. 

By affirming yourself that being quiet is good, you are telling yourself what is acceptable. It is acceptable to conserve your verbal energy, it is acceptable to not speak to people I don’t want to, and it’s acceptable to deny what you’ve been told about being quiet as a bad thing.